Some men are sexually bores. All they ever say to a woman is "Let's go to bed". Let's have fun or sex. Any intelligent woman gets to find this boring sooner or later because these categories of men remind them of a struck record. Some other men are sexually bullies, their little song is " if u don't sleep with me, I'll leave u". There are also subtle bullies who will say "if u love me, u prove it by sleeping with me".                               The message of these kinds of men is all the same. Both are holding a gun to women's head. But i am still convinced dat no self-respecting woman want to be bullied into bed. What these men don't realize is dat most women also has sex drive, but they won't want to go to bed with a bully or a bore because it is  not in their nature.                                                   What warm n loving women want are real men who will understand their plights, who will show them care. Who then  is a caring lover? Without missing words, i will say dat a caring lover is one who shows his woman in everything he does dat, she's special n dat he cares about her. Imperatively, i will like to say dat the modern men n women need understanding among themselves.                             There is a principal fact i know DAT can help modern men became caring lovers. This fact is to understand what sex means to any woman n to know what such woman wants from u besides sex.    The cardinal rule in winning n courting a woman comes not so surprisingly from d Bible. To everything there is a season n a time to every purpose under heaven..... A time to embrace n a time n a time to refrain from embracing (eccl.31:5). A lover should know dat he could give his woman so much more than sex becos he has so much in himself to offer. He should also have it in mind dat when he gives more than sex then when they eventually have sex it will be all d richer n fuller n more tumultuous becos he is a caring lover n she knows dat deep inside her.                                    Sex is a lovely joyful experience if it happens as part of a wilder relationship. But sex can be degrading hurtful n very disappointing if dat is all a man n woman share.                                         A woman demands friendship n companionship more than any other thing. She wants to do things together, have a stroll together, have a cup of tea together n share interest like u both reading this article.                       You don't have to buy her fancy presents or take her to expensive restaurants rather u just have to spend time with her. Note dat women value happiness n ur companionship with them alone can settle dat .